Fourteen
Romantic "Time Outs" For Parents
by
Susie Michelle Cortright
Here
are fourteen spontaneous time-outs, specially designed to help you
pay the small attentions that are so integral to lasting intimacy.
Day
One:
Spend 15 minutes kissing. Many married couples report that the simple
act of kissing is the first part of intimacy to disappear. Today,
recapture the power of the smooch.
Day
Two:
Today, declare a personal moratorium on criticism. Pay attention to
the number of negative thoughts you have about the actions of your
spouse. How critical are you? How does being critical make you feel?
Even when we don't give voice to our criticism, it drains our energy
and keeps us focused on negative thoughts.
Day
Three:
Call, email, or write your mother-in-law (or send a simple bouquet
of flowers). Let her know how grateful you are for her child.
Day
Four:
Spoon.
Day
Five:
Reflect on your first date with your mate, writing down as many
details as you can remember. Now make plans to recreate it.
Day
Six:
Spend tonight in your guest room. Pretend that you and your spouse
are on a romantic vacation in a distant port.
Day
Seven:
What's your spouse's favorite cookie? Bake a batch.
Day
Eight:
Tape-record a love message--sexy or sentimental--on a cassette
tape. Put it in your spouse's car with a Post-it note that
says "Play Me."
Day
Nine:
Declare today a Forgiveness Day. Are you holding a grudge,
however deep, about something your mate has done or said?
Get to the bottom of it today. Then work on letting it go.
Day
Ten:
Assess your listening skills with your spouse. Just for today,
slow down and try not to interrupt.
Day
Eleven:
Write a note and stash it where you know your spouse will
find it some time throughout the day. This can be as simple
as a lipstick kiss on a folded napkin or as elaborate as an
original poem. (For a special touch, fold a Hershey's kiss inside.)
Day
Twelve:
Leave a sexy voice message on your mate's voicemail.
Day
Thirteen:
Trying to control your spouse can lead to feelings of
resentment and disempowerment. Today, reflect on situations
that make you want to control or manipulate. Then work
on letting go.
Day
Thirteen
List all the reasons you love your mate. For 15 minutes,
just let your pen move. Don't stop to think too hard
about the task. Just write. Then present your list.
Day
Fourteen:
Ask the kids to write down a few of the things they love
about your parenting partner. Encourage them to be as
specific as possible. Write them down on slips of paper,
put them in an envelope and place it on your spouse's
dashboard for a heartwarming surprise.
Now
spend some time creating your own 15-minute romantic
gifts for one another.
Copyright
2004 Susie Michelle Cortright
About
the author: Susie Michelle Cortright is the author of several books
for women and founder of the award-winning Momscape.com,
a website designed to help busy women find balance. Visit http://www.momscape.com
today and get Susie's *free* course-by-email "6 Days to Less Stress."
